Death

The fumes of sulphur 

Isn’t a match for a heart

Drenched with 

Heart-wrenching

Loss and agony.

Infinite moments 

Of strength, hope and resilience

Can never prepare you

For that one moment 

Of finiteness. 

When time heaves a deep sigh

And allows breath to cease.

His soul transports 

To heaven in glorious light

But his family left in the 

Shadows, out of sight.

The pit in one’s stomach 

Yawns deeper

Belching moans 

Of hurt and grief.

An angel raptured too quickly

to a land beyond reach.

A man loved by many

His heart, deeper than the sea

Through hands and legs and little voices

A legacy will continue to breathe.

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With a heavy heart I pen these lines. A close family friend of ours just succumbed to the corona virus and has traversed to heaven’s skies. My heart aches for the family. The rest of you reading this, please stay safe. For you. For your family.

If we are going to live life as remorseful bitter humans basking in the light of negativity, remember life is fleeting. Fleeting. I believe that one chance is all we get to make this world a better place. Let’s slow down, just for a while, put aside everything. Pause. Stop running in the hamster’s wheel. End of the day, its not about the competitiveness, proving a point or even trying to settle scores. It is about breathing, having life in out lungs to love, to heal, to seal. If life is a a gift, can we start showing how grateful we are?

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A Precarious Juggle: Balancing Work From Home and Mental Health while Distancing (Blueberries #30)

The workplace culture has tremendously shifted, and many employees have found themselves working from home for the first time. The sounds of the kettle have replaced the hustle and bustle of the office, and the only physical co-workers you can see are your curious toddlers or your pet. Team meetings have been taken online, and we have placed agarbatti sticks on our only hope to tide over this crisis; the wifi router. For some of us students, working from home has become working for home as we try to juggle between our home chores, online courses, social interactions and boredom. 

Whether you’re an employer, an employee or a student the rather distinct interface between work and home has blurred, possibly taking a toll on our mental health. Social distancing has caused overcrowding in our homes where we are both literally and metaphorically stepping on each other’s nerves.  On a more serious note, the uncertainty of the future along with market instability and mounting financial responsibilities has possibly left many of us anxious and emotionally depleted. Therefore it is of utmost urgency to take the time to make our homes a conducive environment that assists in maximising both our work productivity and our mental health. 

Let’s get practical. Here are  7 strategies to boost your mental health to ensure work productivity during this lockdown season. 

  1. Stick to a set routine

A drastic change in routine or lack thereof could be one of the biggest reasons for our anxiety levels to shoot up. The day to day motion of going to college or work or picking up a sandwich at your favourite snack bar unconsciously gives us an illusion of predictability, control and stability. Therefore it is important to ease ourselves into a structured routine so that we can get everything we need to get done, both on the work and home front.

The easiest way to jumpstart our day is to have a morning routine that helps us mentally prepare for the day ahead. Wake up early, as you would during a normal day. Make your bed. Grab some breakfast. Do something for your mental health. Squeeze in a 10-minute meditation session or a quick morning workout. Something that helps me is journaling in the morning, where I do a brain dump of all my fears, anxieties and barriers that are hindering me from being my productive self that day. Make sure to get some release first thing in the morning, whatever that looks like for you. 

The second important thing is to create distinct work and home schedules as if it were a normal day and you went to work.  If you are in the office from 9 am to 5 pm each day, make sure you are working the same hours even at home. At the same time, make sure to log off from all office work according to the same timings.  If you seem to keep getting distracted, turn on some focus music and keep a distraction journal, where you note down anything that comes to your mind. Once you are done working you can get to sorting out those nitty gritties. 

  1. Create a home office

Research has proved that ambience and ergonomics play an important role in sustaining motivation especially when it comes to working. You need to create a separate workspace exclusively for work and work alone. This, when religiously practised, helps your brain associate your workspace with focussed work. Make sure you are not cutting vegetables or aimlessly scrolling through social media at your work station because it completely defeats the purpose. 

Some practical advice would be to station your workspace next to multiple charging points, make sure it is in optimal wifi connectivity range and make sure it is definitely far away from your bed. It is advisable to ensure your UPS has enough battery life in case you have frequent power cuts. Put your phone on do not disturb or at least install some social media app blockers such as Freedom or offtime during work times. We all know how our phones can be the greatest vice, especially in a work from home situation because there is no supervision.

  1. Take digital breaks

Especially if you’re a working mom it is advisable to get most of the cooking and cleaning out of the way before work officially starts. Now that you have multiple helping hands, learn the art of delegating. Apart from that is advisable to take quick 5 to 10-minute digital breaks to give your eyes a rest. After an hour or two of work, step away from all screens, rest your eyes and give your shoulders a stretch. You can also use this time to do quick chores, such as turning on the washing machine, making a cup of chai or maybe even doing a few burpees.

  1. Time batching 

The easiest way to waste time is to attempt to multitask or do things as and when we remember it. When we multitask we are often not being as efficient as we think, we are just quickly shifting contexts and focus between tasks and that can be mentally draining. The best way to conserve mental and physical energy is by time batching. 

Time batching is a productivity strategy that aims at grouping tasks of a similar nature to get more done in less time. For example, instead of answering emails every time, a notification pops up; setting an hour every night to get through all the emails at once. This not only helps you focus and fuel past the task with maximum energy but also focus on the task at hand with minimal distractions. 

Shifting between varied tasks often results in a loss of energy as you have to mentally refocus on each task when you start afresh. This same technique can be applied to almost all tasks such as chores, phone calls or even social media scrolling etc.  Just remember to batch similar tasks and go at it with full vigour.

  1. Communicating and Socialisation

This is an important time to express your emotional commitment to your team and work circles. Many companies have started regular zoom huddles and online meetings to help increase accountability and get work done. Make the conscious step of spending more time with your team, pairing up and brainstorming with team members and even going the extra mile to help a colleague fix a roadblock. While some employees seem to hardly have the motivation, others seem to be working more than usual due to the blurring of work and home life. 

Managers and supervisors will greatly appreciate it if you are in constant touch with them, regularly updating them with your progress and exhibiting initiative to take on more tasks or roles. Additionally, once you’re done with work, make sure to be actually done with work. Sign off from all work-related groups. This time is also a precious opportunity to spend quality time with family members and reconnect with friends. Strive to make meaningful connections instead of aimless social media scrolling.

  1. Exercise. Nutrition. Sleep

The holy trinity of good mental health. There are finally no excuses for working out, cooking healthy meals and getting a good night’s sleep. If you consistently schedule these three elements, you will feel an overall increase in physical and psychological well being. You don’t have to strive for perfection, rather strive for progress in that positive direction. 

  1. Self-care

You might ask, “What about the kids?” Try to schedule their day with a mix of learning and fun as well. Use technology for your benefit and make sure to spend quality time with them daily. Also, pick one self-care activity every day as your winding down ritual. Pamper yourself with some skincare or watching your favourite show or spending time with your better half or even reading a book. Look at this as a hard-earned reward for being productive. Take weekends off.

On a positive note, this pandemic will prepare the workforce for a potential shift into telecommuting and the online sphere. We will be better equipped to plug into the gig economy and possibly try out new freelance options. We finally have the time to reposition ourselves and re-brand ourselves with multiple portfolios by upskilling ourselves. We can finally reclaim our time and enjoy this new flexibility to truly explore and embrace our full potential. 

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Is humanity dead during the COVID-19 pandemic? (Blueberries #5)

I think it is time to address the elephant in the room. The world has plunged under the COVID-19 spread and it has affected all of us. I was listening to one of my favourite podcasts called “Mental” that aims at destigmatising mental health. The host, Bobby Temps, was talking about how everyone might not get physically affected by the pandemic but everyone will be mentally affected by it.

And there is so much truth in there. We are doing all these precautions that will ensure our physical safety but are we investing in protecting our mental health? 

So for this post, I am going to slightly reshift your focus from the bad to the good. I am going to curate a mini-series of 5 stories that show us that humanity isn’t dead even in tough times like this. And I hope that this will help us to look into ourselves and find the good in us. 

# Story 1

Betty Nicole Taylor, her two daughters and her dad seemed symptom-free while continuing to self-quarantine.  Her mother was tested positive and was on a respirator and on dialysis but a nurse from the Atrium Hospital in Charlotte would facetime Taylor so that she could see her mother. 

Soon after, Taylor was also tested positive.  She was a clinical assistant at the Atrium Hospital in 

Charlotte and the health team were incredibly supportive of their own. They delivered boxed food, water, tissues, toilet paper and packs of cough drops and Gatorade. She also received medicines to help cope with her ear infection and stuffy nose. After receiving all the love she exclaimed, “And nobody asked for a dime back”. It was nice to co-workers looking out for each other.

# Story 2

Another story that I heard on the mental podcast really moved me. A health worker had finished 12 hours of duty and was heading back home in her car. She saw a car drive past and when she followed it, found an old man who was reeling back and forth from consciousness. The minute she opened the door to check on him, he reached out, held her hands and told her that he had been tested positive.

He explained that he hadn’t eaten for 7-10 days because he was self-isolating and couldn’t even trust anyone to go to the store for him. The health worker went to a car and immediately found a mask for herself and called an ambulance. The old man was very thankful as she spent 5 hours with him. “I am so glad that I stopped and called the ambulance because if I had waited until the morning, he would have passed away” she posted.

# Story 3

A 99-year-old veteran took it on himself to raise money for the NHS Charities Together Initiative by walking laps in his yard. He plans to complete 100 laps in his 25-meter yard before his 100th birthday on 30th April. Captain Tom Moore initially hoped to raise 1000 pounds but his initiative has reached over 6000 pounds. There is something so endearing about an old man trying to still give back to the world after he has served his country as well.

# Story 4

It was so beautiful to hear that the prison inmates of the state of Kerala, India showed their solidarity by doing their bit. They have joined the government to address the crisis to help the country at large. They are helping by assisting in the manufacture of thousands of masks to overcome the current market shortage of the same. Honestly speaking, they might be in the safest of place as they have been in prolonged social isolation. But there is goodness in everyone and when it truly matters, everyone does contribute for the greater good.

# Story 5

I think these photos posted on Reddit are especially heartwarming. Sometimes it’s not the big things. It is also the little things that matter. In the midst of the chaos, let’s show the world that we still have bleeding hearts. Hearts that bleed with compassion. 

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Hi readers. I know this is an okay time for some but for others it is a brutally devastating time of complete dismay. My heart goes out to each of you who are trying to stay strong during this time. The only thing that can literally keep all our ships sailing is a four letter word called H.O.P.E. In times like this we must do everything we can to look for hope, even if it is in the littlest of things. Because hope sustains the soul. So I hope blueberries helps bring some hope your way. Cause we all need some of that right now.

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